I am very glad that I am growing up, even though no one likes to get older. Because changing the view on many things, on the same sex.
If I’m asked now if I would like to keep my virginity a little longer, I would certainly say no. But what I would like is to have a completely different dialogue with the first guy. Having the current experience and knowledge, I would start our conversation like this:
“Hi, I'm a virgin, but I no longer want to be her. I am already tired of this pressure, when and how to properly have sex for the first time, and that it is my duty to always remain attractive and sexy for you.
In fact, I would just like to know what these feelings are, and if everything is fine with you, I wouldn’t want to be constantly painted, because I don’t like these smeared marks on the pillow. And also, bear in mind that later I just want to quickly shower and brush my teeth.
I would also like to know about your sexual health, and yes, do not forget the condom, okay? I am very worried about this and will appreciate if you don’t expect much from me, because this is my first time. ”
But in reality there was no talk, and it was like this:
“Oh yes, uh ... yeah ... u ... ay ... uh ... everything? Okay, see you on couples. Can you give me my jeans? ”
Why did I think that the only way to be sexual was to act as if I was experienced when we both knew that I had no idea what I was doing? A huge waste of psychological and physical energy during such a cognitive moment of my life.
Here are 10 more things that seemed to me sexy, but in fact were not:
1. Play submissive.
Listen. You should not satisfy another person and only him. You must satisfy each other. Do not do to him anything that does not give pleasure in the first place to you.
2. Use lip gloss.
Something very sticky, impractical and just a means of attracting hair. As my boyfriend once said: “I smeared my bacon” ...
3. Thongs and other impractical underwear.
I never liked the thong. Why would I start stuffing some rope with myself? Oh yeah, fashion. And if I need the traces of the linen not to be visible on the buttocks, I would rather not put on the underwear.
4. Build yourself out of reach.
It only delays time. If you like someone, then take it with your bare hands! If he likes you too, there’s nothing to freeze!
5. To walk in the winter in thin pantyhose and short skirts.
You know, when I realized that this is not sexy? When she had inflammation of the kidneys. This is not sexy, but stupid. Sexually is a healthy responsible person who protects himself from diseases. Yes, and you do not enjoy the acquaintance, if you will be chilling from the cold!
6. Drink alcohol to prove something.
Understanding of this comes only through personal experience. Although alcohol does give a sense of its attractiveness, but in large quantities ... you know. And if you can drink a lot - it does not mean that you are cool, which means that you are ... stupid and pathetic.
In addition, when drunk you cannot make the right decisions and recognize a dangerous situation. Believe me, this is not sexy at all.
7. Show off on the dance floor.
Even if you have a great stripplasty, this is not a reason to show it to everyone. I am FOR such dances, but only for my man or only at special competitions. Otherwise, you are not feminine, but cheeky. This is not a dance.
Why is it still in fashion? Do not do this. You do not look cool. You look like you're trying to be cool.
9. Play lesbians with friends, even though we are not.
First, you do not need to use other people's sexual orientation to attract attention. Secondly, it is not your duty to excite others. Thirdly, you do not need the assessment of others to feel attractive.
10. To behave in sex as if you all know.
Especially if it's with your boyfriend. Feel free to say that you do not know how - he will gladly teach you. Do not be afraid to google and read, watch.
Follow your heart, be who you are, do not compromise with your principles and needs.