How to start chatting with a nanny

How to start chatting with a nanny

Telephone calls and first meeting

  1. When you first talk on the phone, ask immediately if your interlocutor meets all the requirements specified in the ad, and if she really agrees to the proposed work schedule. Otherwise, having talked for more than half an hour, you can find out that a potential nanny is satisfied with absolutely everything, but she absolutely did not expect to return home by 10 o'clock in the evening. Time spent - the result is zero.

    So, to save time, you immediately announce the following:

    • amount of payment;
    • working hours;
    • area of ​​work and how to get there;
    • necessary professional skills and other requirements that are relevant to you.

    Then you ask if the nanny is happy with everything and if she meets all the requirements. Be sure to further the telephone conversation in more detail tell us about the responsibilities of the nurse. It is possible that the applicant will not be ready to clean the apartment or iron diapers.


  2. For a personal meeting, schedule at least an hour.Moreover, it is desirable that at this time someone was at home with a child. Or meet at the nanny at home - this is ideal, but not always realistic (lack of time, you will need to meet again with you to show the nanny of the child, the way to your house, apartment, etc.).
  3. By all means stipulate that your potential nanny should bring the following documents to the meeting:
    • passport;
    • diploma of education;
    • recommendations from previous jobs;
    • medical certificates.

  4. ALWAYS rewrite passport data and phone numbers of people who gave recommendations (try to ask in advance to make copies of your passport and recommendations at your expense and bring them to the interview). Do not forget to call these people and talk to them. If you see fit - make sure that you come to the nanny home to meet her family. Do not be embarrassed, you trust a person not only his property, but also the most valuable thing - his child. You just have to be vigilant. Your actions are absolutely NORMAL.
  5. Prepare in advance the questions you want to ask the nurse in person. Here is a sample list - you can supplement it at your discretion.
    • Ask to talk about recent jobs.
    • Why did you have to look for a new place?
    • What was the nanny's job?
    • How will she soothe a crying baby?
    • Her first aid actions (the child choked, poisoned, etc.). Can she do artificial respiration?
    • Who are her closest relatives?
    • How often does she get sick?
    • Will the nanny be able to stay by prior arrangement, work on weekends, go to the cottage, etc.

  6. When stipulating the work schedule, be sure to clarify that the nanny should start her duties at the exact time, and not come “on time” and spend another 10 minutes to change clothes, wash your hands, etc. - you can be late for your work .
  7. If you want the nurse to change clothes, be sure to stipulate it in advance. You can offer her "his" shelf in the closet and a towel.
  8. Warn that the nanny fulfills your and only your orders. This will avoid problems when interfering with the work of your mom or mother-in-law's nanny.
  9. Be sure to stop that the nanny must follow the instructions of the parents, regardless of their own ideas about parenting.One can proceed from the opposite: you consider that you trust her experience more and allow her to take care of the child at her own discretion.
  10. Discuss nutrition issues. At what time the nurse can have dinner and whether your refrigerator can use exactly what products the nurse can take. The issue of nutrition is very delicate, and in order to avoid misunderstandings, you can suggest the nanny to eat her own products, which she will bring with her.
  11. It is not necessary to immediately give the prospective nanny an answer right after the interview. You can refer to the fact that you have scheduled several meetings with applicants. Give yourself time to think and discuss with family members. Perhaps, talking about the nanny to your loved ones, you will realize that you are confused by something, or, conversely, the story will dispel the last doubts.
  12. Do not neglect the trial period. Depending on the situation, it can be reduced to one day, but it can take a week to “lapping”. The duration of the probationary period and what exactly you mean by it (for example, reduced payment with subsequent compensation or just a postponement of the final answer, etc.), I must say right away.It is best for you during this period to spend as much time as possible at home and look closely at the nanny. If this is not possible, then upon returning from work, pay attention to the state of the child, whether the nurse readily tells you about the day she spent, what questions she has, etc.

First day of work

  1. If circumstances do not allow you to stay TOGETHER with your nanny for several days, then try to spend at least several hours with her.
  2. Spend a babysitter throughout the apartment, tell me where the baby’s things and toys are, what kind of dishes he uses.
  3. Show how to use household appliances that she may need in her work. If you leave her the keys, ask the nanny in your presence to open and close the locks.
  4. Best of all, if on the very first day of your work you hand in the list to the nanny in writing a list of all the duties that you have previously stipulated.
  5. Be sure to leave the nanny all possible contact numbers: yours, your relatives, neighbors, Dez, police, ambulance, doctor, district emergency service.

Psychological features of the relationship with the nanny

  1. The main thing in choosing a nanny is that you like her “like a human being”.If you have the slightest doubt - do not hire!
  2. The choice, of course, is yours, but it is better to build relationships in such a way that the nanny does not consider herself a “family member”. To this end, it is better to stay with the nanny on "you." If one day you let your nanny "poke" and call you "kiddy" or start to jointly "drink tea" and share your problems, keep in mind that there will be no way back.
  3. Bear in mind that some applicants are not psychologically prepared to fulfill your orders. The situation in which she is commanded by a young girl who is suitable for her granddaughter, can be unbearable for such a nanny. She will either teach you or act on her own, ignoring your child care orders. Do not try to change it, look for another assistant.
  4. The first time you may feel very embarrassed in the role of the employer. It is difficult to build relationships without having a certain experience. Try to be extremely polite, while demanding strict compliance with your orders. Think about what you do not do a favor, and work for the money that you earn.

Getting acquainted with the pretender in the nanny, watch how soon she established contact with your child. What tone, with what eyes communicates with him. Listens to your advice. Does your recommendation write down your recommendations, how to feed a child, what to read, what to wear ...

Play some test scenes with your future nanny. Suppose: "My boy snatched the thermometer from you. How will you behave?" Or: "He threw a toy at you. What next? ..".

Only those medicines that you have already given to your child should be on hand. No experiments from her!

Like “Our Father,” the nurse should know the telephone numbers of the district doctor and the district militia officer, the ambulances, the emergency services, and, of course, your parents' phones. (Write down the numbers of these phones and put them in a prominent place. Let your nanny feel free to call you at work even for nothing at first).

It is important that the nanny is a positive person, especially in relation to children

Children are often naughty, they can be tiring and behave foolishly from the point of view of an adult. There are two extreme approaches:

  • negative ("all children are capricious, angry, they must be kept in strictness, punishment is the best way of education, it is necessary to point out the bad", etc.);
  • "lisping" (whatever a child does, it's good, let him get it and do whatever he wants).

The first one is given by the school and kindergarten, the second one is more often peculiar to relatives, especially to elderly ones. But occasional people sometimes also lisp: several times I watched in transport as an elderly woman jumps up at the sight of a 5-6 year old boy.

We want the child to grow up in a friendly atmosphere and have adequate self-esteem, so we decided that the best-balanced, friendly, positive, but without lisping approach to children.

How to check

“Why do you think children often are naughty and cry?”, “Why do children indulge?”, “Why don't they often obey adults?”. You can ask any of these questions or take turns to understand the person’s mood: aggressive answers (” badly brought up, naughty, not able to behave, something is always wrong, and the like) suggest that a new Freken Bock can come to us. There is also an indifferent kind of nanny (remember the hero Papanov from the movie “For family reasons”: “I’ll babysit someone else’s child because I’ll be too worried about mine”).Such answer something like; "Well, it always happens", "The usual thing." The most optimal answer is to find the reasons: "Why are they naughty and crying? Maybe something hurts, maybe asks for something, or maybe it's just tired." There may be a lot of options for such answers, but they have in common: there are real reasons, moreover, more positive and objective than negative.

The baby is a big load

To read, to take a walk, to prepare something, to load a washing machine, and you never know what else matters arise ... Thereforeneed a nanny who easily switches from one case to another, can do two or three things in parallel. A small digression into the field of psychology: objectively, the rate of switching of attention is different for all people. Similarly, there is a tendency to consistently or concurrently commit actions: some of us easily and naturally discuss business issues over the phone, while typing a business letter, read a book and watch television, and none of the cases suffer.
We need just such a person.

How to check

It is worth asking such, for example, the question: "If you are preparing a festive dinner,Are you busy with several dishes in parallel or in series? (At the same time, mention that she will not have to prepare holiday dinners, or they may misunderstand.) You can ask a similar question about TV and reading a magazine, ironing clothes and a new film, and so on. The main thing is not to clarify how a person CAN, but how COMFORTABLY feels. With a nanny who likes to do several things in parallel and easily switches from one to another, you can be calm: nothing will be left without attention.

It is important that the nurse is set to receive feedback from the child, to react to his emotions, to strive to be attached to her.

In addition, it is important to understand how a nanny will determine the attitude of the child and his parents towards themselves and their actions. And one more check point is defined:Does the nanny seek feedback and how does it do it?

How to check

"Do children love you? Why do you think so?" or "Are you a good nanny? Why do you think so?". The answer to the second part of each question is important for us: the parents' opinion must necessarily be heard (“My parents always praise me,” “They ask me to extend the term of work”),the child’s attitude (“He rejoices when I come,” “He laughs with me often”), objective signs (“Never ill,” “I learned to eat (dress) on my own”). If there is no such or similar component in the answer, then we risk getting a nanny who herself knows best how to raise a child, and his parents too.

Young children often get sick, there can be all sorts of stressful situations or situations that require quick and competent response, ability to make decisions and find a way out of difficult situations.That is what we decided to evaluate.

How to check

“The child is sick, he has a fever, you cannot contact the parents. Your actions?”, “The child does not want to take medicine, why?”. A good answer is one that contains as many options as possible. The main thing is that you see in a person the willingness to solve difficult situations and take responsibility. In the question about medicine, the ability to look at the world with children's eyes is encrypted. A good nanny will sort out a lot of answers: "bitter," "tasteless," "it hurts to swallow," rather than angry and unequivocal - "yes, it is a whim!".

Of course, being close to a child, a nanny has a great influence on the formation of his values, attitudes and ideas.

Let not as purposeful and essential as parents, but still. thereforeit is necessary to evaluate the views and values ​​of the nanny, which can have a significant impact on a small child.

How to check

One of the possible questions is: “What do you like most about people?”, Or “What do you think, in what situations are we going to cheat?”, Or anything that seems important to you. Here are no tips. The answer just should please you.

Anyone can work really well only when he is motivated, and not just doing something out of despair.

thereforeyou need to find out if there is something that attracts our future nanny in work.Or nursing your child for her is just a routine way to make money.

How to check

"Why did you decide to become a nanny? What attracts you to work?" Will there be something attractive and positive in the answers? Or a phrase like: "I had to change my job, you know how state employees are paid." If this is only a necessity, it’s better not to mess with this, because without a soul you can’t do anything good, and certainly not win the love of a child.

KEEPING EAR VESTRO

Do not make a mistake in choosing you will only help a clear strategy, skillfully conducted interview, observation and intuition, to which you can resort when you first talk on the phone or in person. Take the interview for at least half an hour, it is desirable that at the same time in the house was attended by all family members. Everything is important here - from documents and recommendations to your own feelings. How does a potential nanny hold on, does she ask too many questions, does she not raise too many conditions? Does she really like working with children? Her qualifications, age, previous experience, health.

However, the most important points you will not understand from the characteristics, here you have to rely only on your own intuition, supported by letters of recommendation (if any). So, asking questions, do not be afraid to look tactless, because you need to know this person as best you can in a short time.

During the interview, note how the candidate behaves, how she responds, how she is held.

Indicators to pay attention to when choosing a nanny:

  • Was the future nanny on time for the meeting?
  • Did she look clean and neat?
  • Are you psychologically compatible?
  • How good is the baby with the nanny?
  • Does the nanny fulfill any parenting requirements for parenting and child care?
  • Are there symptoms of mental imbalance?
  • A good nanny at the first conversation will show interest in the child.

What requirements are parents entitled to make?

  • First of all, the nurse should provide a fresh medical certificate with marks from the PND, dermatologist, narcologist, results of fluorography, tests for HIV, hepatitis, RW, bacposiv.
  • The data of the labor book and passport.
  • Diploma.
  • Recommendations (if any).

Speaking about your requirements, you can ask a woman not to bring her friends to the house, to demand the fulfillment of safety rules, clearly define the terms of reference. Do not forget to tell how to use the locks, what is where it lies (especially the child’s things), tick the places where the presence of an employee is not necessary. Trusting your child to a stranger, do not forget to leave him your phones, as well as telephone numbers of the housing department, the district police department and the local doctor. To all this, add a certain amount of money for unexpected expenses.

Establish a probationary period to observe the work of the nanny before taking it for a long time. Such a test will justify itself. Of course, it is better to be at home for several days, to give the baby some time to get used to a stranger, and the nanny to get used to it. Do not immediately allow the nanny to take the child in his arms or to invade his "personal space". It is better to wait until the child himself approaches the nanny, feels calm in the company of the new person. While in the house, carefully watch and listen. If your child is inclined to be timid in front of strangers, then think not so much about how the child behaves, but rather about how the nanny treats him (a good educator will eventually win the child's sympathy, but the main thing is that he will treat the child from the very beginning with sympathy). During the trial period, carefully monitor your child. Follow your instinct: if something tells you that this person does not fit your child, find another candidate.

HOME DIPLOMACY

Do not build relationships in such a way that the nanny feels like a family member (in this case, it will be more difficult for you to give orders and demand to the nanny).It is best to keep a distance, but at the same time, the relationship should be confidential. And yet avoid personal topics in conversation, do not discuss your family problems. You should not discuss the purchase of some expensive things (so as not to provoke envy). Try to be polite and calm, while demanding strict execution of your orders. You should not hire a nanny, who believes that she knows better than you what your child needs. She must fulfill all the requirements put forward by parents. The fact is that for the stability of the psyche of the baby important predictable situation. It’s impossible for mom to want one from him, and the nanny for the other. Do not let a nanny teach you or act on your own.

BLACK ON WHITE

It is advisable to draw up a notarized contract with the nanny, in which it is necessary to set out the main requirements for the nanny and fix their duties towards her. This will allow you to further avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and misunderstandings between you. Include two or three weeks of probation, during which both parties can change their decision. Also indicate the following conditions:

*Salary. Will you pay daily, weekly or monthly? Do you take a person for a fixed amount or take an hourly form of payment? Do you pay for extra hours?

*The duties that you assign to it.Remember that a nanny who is supposed to wash the floor and cook dinner may have less time for a child; on the other hand, if simple homework is done when you are at work, you will have more time for the child.

*Schedule a nanny and whether additional hours will be introduced. In accordance with the established schedule of work (up to stay in your home), determine the cost of a nanny’s working hour and requirements for it. Separately negotiated: work on weekends, departure to the country, urgent.

* Convenience, if a person looking after a child stays in your house, as well as the rules for using a telephone, TV, kitchen, etc.

Household moments, such as, for example, feeding the nanny, are also advisable to discuss in order to avoid misunderstandings. If your nanny does not have the appetite for Pantagruel, then your budget is unlikely to falter if you offer her the opportunity to eat with you.

The contract with the nurse at the notary, in fact, can not be assured, unless for complacency. From a formal point of view, such contracts must be certified in local government, and the employer must still pay UST and other on the nurse's salary. Civil law provides for freedom of contract, so the parties may agree in another way, if this does not contradict the current legislation.

EVALUATION OF CARE FOR YOUR CHILD

Regular assessment of your child’s care is as important as the initial choice. So, be attentive to the signs that indicate a deterioration in care.

Your child's behavior

The fact that the existing care does not meet the needs of your child may say the following: the appearance of additional problems with food and sleep; unhappy appearance that appears with the arrival of a nanny (in addition to natural excitement due to your leaving) - the child really suffers, and not just sad, because you leave him; he is clearly unhappy at the end of the day; uncharacteristic behavior; the emergence of additional behavioral problems.Do not ignore the depressed state of your child, in particular, pay great attention (and immediately react) to the state of severe fright, frequent nightmares, bruises of unknown origin and other signs of mistreatment.

Coming from work, do not forget to ask the nanny how your child behaved and what they did during the day. And then ask the child the same question, listen to what he answers to you, if he expresses displeasure, do not rush to dismiss him, find out the reason. If the child cannot formulate it, offer him a game, for example, in the daughter-mother, where the nanny will be present. It is better if you give this role to the child himself, and then you will be able to understand some of the reasons for the displeasure of your child. Try to objectively approach the analysis of what you see, and if the displeasure is caused by fair demands to remove the toys or finish the porridge, you can be calm, but if the child uses expressions or movements unusual for him, talk to the nanny about it. You must respect my child.

If you suddenly lost faith in the reliability of the nanny, hurry to give her a calculation as soon as possible, even if you paid her in advance: no money can replace your child’s safety.

The behavior of the person caring for the child

A good nanny is distinguished by responsibility, sociability, respect for you, your child and your wishes (with which you must respond). In relation to the child, she should be gentle, calm, sympathetic, sensible, confident. She must love the child, but not surround him with unnecessary care. In other words, she must live with him in harmony.

The nurse is obliged to report new successes of the baby or about his problems, to tell in the smallest details everything that happened without you.

A nanny should limit herself to bodily contact with the child. She can stroke him, make him sit on her knees. Without it, can not do. But kissing, sleeping with him in the same bed is not necessary.

Professionally trained babysitters do not allow a child to call themselves "mother", it is better to let him call her by name or simply "nanny". The nanny should also call your child by name without using the home name of your child.

If your child has become attached to a nanny, then you have made a good choice. If your child is so keen on playing with a nanny that he doesn’t notice you when you return home in the evening, this is a sign that he feels comfortable. If your child behaves well with a nanny all day long, and saves them for you, it means that he is confident in your love and knows that he can afford bad behavior in your presence.

Maybe so: an experienced and energetic nanny is able to easily push the mother from the child. If it lasts for several years, then it will be extremely difficult to fill the spiritual gap between the child and the mother.

A mother inviting a nanny should see her assistant in her, but not a substitute, and proceed from this principle daily and hourly.

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