How to better understand the feelings of a child: a test of fairy tales

How to better understand the feelings of the child: the test "Tales"

Want to better understand your child? Tell him a fairy tale.Or rather, tell the tale with him. The “fabulous” test was developed by the child psychologist Louise Duss. It helps parents understand the feelings and experiences of babies that they themselves are not able to understand and express because of their age.

Do not take this test too intensely.For you and for the child it should be an interesting game and joint work. The essence of the test is to tell the child stories in which the character is a child. With this character your baby will identify himself. Each story ends with a question: how, in the child’s opinion, should this hero behave in the current situation. According to children's answers, you can understand how he understands and perceives the phenomena of life that describe stories.
To test effective, do not impose it on the child.. Choose a time in which you usually tell a kid a fairy tale, or wait for the child to ask him to tell it.Do not comment on his answers, do not interrupt and do not rush, saying: "Listen now to another fairy tale." If the child is alarmed, interrupts the story and tries to finish it instead of you, refuses to answer the question or shows other signs of excitement, note: this topic is painful for him. It may be worthwhile to consult with a psychologist about this.

Tale "Chick"

The tale "Chick" allows you to identify the degree of dependence on one of the parents or from both together. “Birds are sleeping in a nest in a tree: father, mother and little baby bird. Suddenly a strong wind blew up, the branch broke and the nest fell down: everyone was on the ground. Dad flies and sits on one branch, mom sits on the other. What should the chick do? ”

Typical normal answers:
he, too, will fly and sit on the branch
fly to mom because scared
will fly to dad because dad is strong
will remain on the ground, because he cannot fly, but will call for help, and mum and dad will take him away

Typical pathological answers:
will remain on the ground because they cannot fly
will die during the fall
will die of hunger or cold
everyone will forget about him
somebody come on him

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Tale "Baby Elephant"

The fairy tale "Baby Elephant" can reveal the difficulties that a boy has in connection with the development of sexuality, in particular, his attitude towards the so-called castration complex. “One boy has a baby elephant, very cute, with a pretty proboscis. Once, having entered the room, the boy sees that something has changed in the baby elephant. What has changed and why? ”

Typical normal answers:
the little elephant jokingly repainted a different color
increased
he broke the boy's favorite toy

Typical pathological answers:
the elephant has no trunk because it was cut off
baby elephant behaved badly and his trunk fell off
baby elephant died
instead of a baby elephant there was another animal

If you then ask for clarification of the answers, it is possible that the boy will explain the end of the stories as a result of the bad behavior of the elephant that was punished.

Fairy tale "Lamb"

The first version of the tale allows you to find out how the child suffered weaning. The second option makes it possible to control the manifestation or lack of a feeling of jealousy towards a younger brother or sister who is still breastfed.

1st option.“Once upon a time there was a sheep with its lamb. The lamb was already big and even ate weed. In the evening, mother gave him some milk, which he loved very much. But one day my mother was left without milk and could not feed him. What do the lamb do? ”

Typical normal answers:
will eat more weed
he will cry, then he will eat more weed
will go to another sheep and ask her for milk

Typical pathological answers:
will starve to death
will go to another sheep and will not return to mother again
won't pay attention to mom because she left him without milk
will cry so much that mom somewhere will get him milk

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2nd option.“Once upon a time there was a sheep with its lamb. The lamb was already big and even ate weed. In the evening, mother gave him some milk, which he loved very much. But once my mother brought a very small lamb, which drinks only milk and does not know how to eat weed. Then the mother told the elder lamb that he would have to do without milk, because for both the lambs would not be enough, and he could already eat weed. What will the lamb do? ”

Typical normal answers:
will eat more weed
he will cry, then he will eat more weed
will go to another sheep and ask her for milk
pokapriznichaet a little, but he loved a little lamb, so he will eat weed

Typical pathological responses:
will eat weed, but will be angry at mom and little lamb
will try to chase the little lamb
pretend to be obedient, and then he will take the little lamb somewhere and drink himself milk again
will find another mom for a little lamb
beat a little lamb and drive it away from mom

Tale "News"

The tale "News" reveals a child's unjustified anxiety or fear, as well as unspoken desires and expectations, the existence of which parents may not even suspect. “One boy (girl) returns from a walk (from friends, from grandmother, from school - choose the most appropriate situation for your child), and the mother says to him:“ Finally you came. I have to tell you one news. ” What news does mom want to tell him? ”

Typical normal answers:
we will have guests
someone will come, someone was born, etc.
Mom heard something important on the radio or on TV, etc.

Typical pathological answers:
someone died
mom wants to scold a child for walking
Mom wants to ban something, punish, etc.

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    How to better understand the feelings of a child: a test of fairy tales

    How to better understand the feelings of a child: a test of fairy tales

    How to better understand the feelings of a child: a test of fairy tales

    How to better understand the feelings of a child: a test of fairy tales

    How to better understand the feelings of a child: a test of fairy tales

    How to better understand the feelings of a child: a test of fairy tales

    How to better understand the feelings of a child: a test of fairy tales

    How to better understand the feelings of a child: a test of fairy tales

    How to better understand the feelings of a child: a test of fairy tales

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