People constantly complain about bad relationships. But they do nothing to change something. I also know how to look like a victim and make up excuses for why things did not turn out the way they wanted. But as soon as I understood my role in my choice, I could no longer accept how I behaved.
I, like you, really want a relationship. That’s why we all read it here. We look at the couples around and think, “Why not me? Why is everyone all good, but what have I got? ”
We want love. We want the perfect fairy tale, and we want it NOW.
But rarely who happens. And the irony is that we ourselves are our biggest enemy. But the good news is that we can change that.
So, 4 points, how we prevent ourselves from finding the love we want:
1. You do not know what you want.You talk about it. You have in your account a lot of different quotes about love and maybe even an inspiring phrase in the form of a tattoo on his leg. But have you ever thought specifically what you want from a guy? Be specific. The wording should not be reversed: "I do not want it to be ...". So you give yourself the wrong setup.Speak specifically: “He should be loving sports / reading books / having fun”, etc.
2. You have no plan, but you have excuses.So, you have a list of what you want, but there is no way to find such a person. But there are excuses: you do not use dating sites, because this is not for you. “It’s so hard to find an honest person.” And you sit all day at home. And where are you going to find your love? It is easy to meet people, they are everywhere, you just have to step over the threshold of your house. Learn to start a conversation. Do not be afraid of failure. Without trying, you will not know.
3. You do not want what you want, strongly enough.Got it? You talk about what you want, but you do nothing for it. Your life does not reflect your desires. Do you want to find a pumped up guy, but don't go to the gym? Your life is the result of your choice. What you choose?
4. You keep saying yes to the past.You need strength and the desire to say "No" to what you do not want, and "Yes - what you want. Stop transferring past scenarios to the present.
What is needed?
Understand that love exists, that you can build a good relationship. Everything depends only on you. When you realize that everything is in your hands, when you begin to act, then you will meet the same person whose life and happiness is his choice.