At first glance it seems - well, what is terrible in a narcissus man? Well, a little narcissist, well, gives himself a lot of time - and who does not want to look good, well, who is not an egoist? But in reality, in perspective, daffodils are dangerous people who tend to manipulate others.
Psychologists have noted certain stages in the behavior of daffodils in relationships: first, idealization, then depreciation, and then rejection. All this can cause serious psychological and emotional trauma.
The worst thing is that the victim often does not recognize the behavior of the narcissus as some kind of domestic violence. And if he understands that something is wrong, he blames himself all over.
Therefore, it is very important to know the emotional language of the behavior of narcissus manipulators in order to recognize toxic behavior in time and not fall victim to it.
Here are three types of information that the narcissus usually collects in the first period of idealizing relationships, when it bathes you in attention, but then uses everything that is known against you in the period of depreciation and rejection.
1. Your shortcomings, complexes, secrets that you trust him.
The narcissus manipulator just jumps with happiness when you start to open to him early and share your secrets. So it is much easier for him to get into your mind. He pretends to support and sympathize with you, but then he will use all this information to provoke you, humiliate and insult you at the stage of depreciation.
Remember: a narcissus has no limits what and how it will use against you. He wants to feel power, even if it means hurting you. For a narcissus, an open wound is an invitation to cut it alive, and it will definitely make this wound deeper.
2. Your strengths and achievements, especially those with which he is terribly jealous.
At first, he could be incredibly proud of your success, showing off to his friends and relatives. He associated himself with you and felt important too. But after the idealization stage, depreciation begins - and now he no longer considers you “confident and sexy,” now you are “conceited and vulgar.” He twists your advantages in disadvantages.
The narcissus manipulator makes you believe that you really are not worth anything, he diminishes your achievements, ignores them and behaves as if it means nothing.And against the background of the fact that at first he admired you, and now suddenly stopped, you might think that you are really to blame. But it is not.
Narcissus is just jealous. He cannot tolerate your success for too long. And he wants to be the best at least to humiliate you.
3. Your need to satisfy him, and his need to be constantly unsatisfied.
You want to make a pleasant beloved one - this is normal. But the daffodil can hook you when it thanks you for your efforts. Everything seems so perfect - because this is the stage of idealization.
But as soon as the depreciation begins, the narcissus will be altogether small. He will be displeased with your efforts, his demands will rise dramatically, which will simply be impossible to achieve. And you will still desperately try to satisfy him - you are on his hook.